How African lovers sleep
SIMPLE things like how couples sleep play an important role in the bond those lovers have.
Many people aren’t aware that they sleep in a certain position as a couple, but that pattern is actually what makes them sleep peacefully together.
According to Lebohang Makole, he wasn’t aware he had a certain pattern until the day his partner left home to go on a business trip – and he was left alone.
Said Lebohang: “I struggled to sleep alone because when my partner was there, there were certain things we did. I mean, just being next to her calms me down.
“This also happens when there’s tension. Although we try to not go to bad without resolving issues, it’s not the same.”
He said the couple believed in cuddling, which they did until dozing off.
“I usually find that she’s either reading or busy with some of her work. When I get into bed, I don’t disturb her, I just lay next to her and wait for her to finish whatever,” he said.
He said his partner would turn and they’d face each other. But when she was starting to fall asleep, she’d look the other way and he’d hold her from behind.
Insisted Lebohang: “But when she’s going through emotions, she likes sleeping on my chest, which does something to my ego.
“I feel like I got her back and she knows. When we’re just chilling, I love using her bums as my pillow, they’re so comfortable.”
Relationship expert Karabo Oliphant Libate said every couple had a sleeping pattern, which affects them.
“Sleeping patterns have a lot to do with your sleeping routine – like
what time you go to bed and when you wake up. That’s important when one is in a relationship,” Karabo said.
“But in this case, it’s all about the position that you guys sleep in that plays a part in your bond as a couple.”
She said feeling your partner’s touch was amazing because “some things could only be felt”.
Asserted Karabo: “There’s a lot one can pick up by just observing how couples sleep. People in love enjoy touching and feeling each other. I’ve spoken to most girls, they appreciate it when their partner holds them because they feel the warmth. The most common pattern is cuddling, and that’s good for assurance, especially between two people.”
Karabo urged couples to touch each other more because it was good for the relationship and created a safe place for both partners.
But Nozipho Ndaba said she wasn’t the cuddling type.
Quipped Nozipho: “I get irritated when my partner gets all touchy. Don’t get me wrong, I know he means well but, for me, it can sometimes be too much.”
She said she got excited for a limited time before asking her partner, even when asleep, to give her space.
“We love each and are in a relationship, but the bed is big enough for both of us to fit in,” Nozipho said.
“I don’t get why a person would leave such a huge space just to define how romantic they are.”